Sexual fantasy is one of those topics that many people experience but few people openly talk about. When it does come up either individually or in relationships it’s often loaded with confusion, curiosity, or even shame. There are a few important things to understand right from the start that can help ground how we think about fantasies.

What feels good at a 0 is not the same as what feels good at a 3, a 6, or a 10. This is a vital concept that, once understood, can change the way individuals and couples interact sexually and help people communicate more clearly about what improves their sex life. It affects nearly every aspect of sexual interaction.

When many people think about sexual difficulties in menopause, the first thing that comes to mind is vaginal dryness. While dryness is real, it doesn’t fully capture the physical and sexual changes that occur as estrogen levels decline. Empower yourself by learning more about menopause including treatments that can improve your sexual wellness.

Everyone has disappointing sex. What’s important is how you respond. Read Dr. Bird’s top suggestions for how to handle sex that doesn’t go well and how to stay connected instead of getting frustrated.

The clitoris is more than a “button.” Learn the full anatomy, how arousal works, and why clitoral stimulation—not the G-spot—is key to pleasure.

Talking about sex can feel awkward or overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. Learn practical tips from a sex therapist and communication strategies for navigating sensitive conversations and building a healthier, more connected sexual relationship.

Pelvic and genital pain can happen during sexual activity or even everyday activities, and anyone can experience it. In this post, I discuss why an interdisciplinary approach matters and how therapy can help you reduce pain, cope, rebuild pleasure, and explore new ways of connecting.

Your car won’t go if the brake is on…even if you’re revving the engine.

The issue of sexual desire is usually about something else.

Just because two people feel safe and connected doesn’t mean that their sex life will be amazing. In fact, it can be especially hard to view your partner in an erotic way when you are so familiar and close.

Different types of touch to stay connected.

How to practice mindful touch. It’s not about relaxation.

How to stop performing and start enjoying. In our blog we talk about sex and therapy (two things many people are told not to talk about) - come check it out.